A lot of people like romance animes, but some people like yaoi specifically. Over the years, the controversy that came out against those diehard BL fans is that they are fetishising the gay community and fujoshi even means “Rotten woman”.
But first we must ask the question, what the heck makes these people specifically fujoshis? If you enjoyed BL/yaoi before or ship two characters together…are you one?
Common Fujoshi Behavior ( if these apply to you, you might be one)
Befriending people because they are gay.
Shipping random guys together on the street.
Reading/watch yaoi/BL just because it’s a gay love story.
- Creeping around gay people so you can see their love.
Wishing more men would be gay and date each other.
In summary, to be a fujoshi you have to be someone who is attracted to the idea of two men together for your own pleasure (while not being a gay man)…I’m sure you can see why this would distress the gay community.
I, for one used to think I was a fujoshis back in middle school because I used to read/watch BL and GL stuff (I still do) sometimes ( As you can see I had no idea wtf a fujoshis was and thought it just meant that you were fine reading love stories with characters that are not straight…). However, I watched the anime “Barakamon”, which featured a character named Tamako Arai…and she was a fujoshi, so naturally I was like “Wtf this is what a fujoshi is?” and then I read the manga “kiss him, not me” and decided to look up what a fujoshi was, and I felt pretty badly calling myself one from then on because I personally found it a tad bit creepy because the idea of being interested in something or someone simply because of their sexual orientation was disturbing to me. After all, although I might be a straight woman who has read BL it doesn’t really matter to me as long as the story is good and I hope that it’s okay to be this way ( I’m open to criticism if you are a gay or lesbian person and find it bad of me to ever read/watch GL/BL).
Anyways, as an example using myself let’s look at the hit romance movie “Call me by your name”, which features two men in love. I am probably one of the few people who did not watch it because the plot didn’t appeal to me TBH (the reason I don’t like it is because from the plot it sounds like pedophilia and I can’t watch something with pedophilia); either way it makes sense, ya don’t like the plot ya don’t watch it however a fujoshi would see two men and not give a care this person would just go I’m and watch it for the romantic/sex scenes. Basically, fujoshis are the same as those guys that watch lesbian porn cause it’s “hot”, they’re both fetishizing in some way.
Now that we know what a fujoshi/Fudanashi is let’s understand this discourse by first looking at both sides’ arguments:
Fujoshi’s arguments and why they like BL
It is a known fact that the majority of fujoshi’s are straight girls, aka women who like men so the thought of not one man but two men being together appeals to those who favor men, so that’s the main reason fujoshis exist. ( Not an excuse to the fetishization ofc…). An argument that I have seen a lot of fujoshi’s pull is that they are simply supporting their love and find two men together to be quite cute; in fact many fujoshis do not believe that they are in any way fetishizing gay people and believe it to be a “hobby” or a “preference” of theirs.
Since there are a lot I will make this a bullet list…
- They often make gay people uncomfortable, because they feel like they are sexualized for someone else’s fantasies.
- When they make fan fiction and ship two real people (ie, Kpop, one direction…), oftentimes the ones being shipped are uncomfortable (most notably one direction).
- Liking someone just because they are gay is disrespectful.
- Basically, they lack ethical judgement when it comes to the LGBTQ+ community. Their belief is that they went through so much shit to be accepted and then the fujoshis come out and make them sex objects.
Interesting arguments from both sides, right? Here’s my take on it:
To offer a nice objective opinion, you have to out yourself in both of the opposing sides’ Shoes. First, I have fujoshi friends and it’s pretty obvious they don’t even know they’re fetishizing, in fact many of them were shocked to know that the gay community sees them in this fashion and they genuinely feel like they are supporters of the community. Unfortunately, when you support a community you should probably listen to what they have to say. Personally, I think the “anti-fujoshis” are pretty reasonable. They’re not saying to never enjoy content where the lovers are both male, they’re just asking that fujoshis stop enjoying this content just because they are gay. They’re asking that fujoshis don’t fantasize about gay people having sex, but they’re not against fujoshis enjoying a story that features some smut that just happens to have two males as lovers. As long as you’re here for the actual story and content and not just the “gay sex”, then to then you’re pretty alright. Unfortunately, fujoshis online and the ones I know think yaoi is “sexy” or “hot” and just read it because of that. Keep in mind however, that some fujoshis do read for the plot and not just the sex.
Although I’m not too much of a supporter of fujoshi hobbies, most of them are younger in age and rather than condemning them or calling them disgusting…I think people should simply explain why this is a problem to them and calmly talk to them and then if they change and stop fetishizing, they shouldn’t be “cancelled” because they would be someone who learned from their past.